6 BETTER WAYS TO HANDLE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Love, sex, friendship and, well, just about any relationship in your life can be complicated.  However, some people have it good while others have it bad. But have you ever wonder why some people have awesome relationships, why they seem to always get it right, and at the same time, why some people are failing at their relationship?.

I have wondered about this issue several times myself and I could not come up with a simple answer, so I decided to do a little research and I was able to come up with this six things some people are doing better than others in their relationships that makes  it look so simple and better.

# They don’t dwell on the past
Quite a number of us have been through a break up or two in our lives, break ups are inevitable, they make us stronger and smarter in a way. The most important thing is for us to learn from it and not allow it to define our lives or the next relationship. This is one thing people who are great at relationships have been able to imbibe into their lives and relationships.

# Balance of give and take
People who are good at relationships understand the balance of give and take, they give as much as they receive from their partner. Some of us feel that if we give too much of ourselves and love to the other half, we might be taken for granted or exploited. This, in a way is true as there are selfish guys and ladies out there who are only interested in taking alone. But, if we have this at the back of our minds that there are still some good people out there and we end up meeting the right partner, we should not hesitate to give as much as we are taking.

#Communication
This may sound like a  cliché, but it is still a vital and integral key to having a good and almost perfect relationship. Effective communication between you two is a skill that needs to be practiced over and over again till it becomes your second “skin”. We may have a situation where a partner doesn’t like speaking cause of his or her background, if there is an atmosphere of love and understanding, where you know you can be heard and not judged for what you have said. This I believe will make the so quite spouse open up gradually.

#The “space thing”
When some people hear this, all hell will break loose. They can’t stand hearing this from  a boyfriend or girlfriend without thinking “strange strange” things(naija things). A large number of us usually lose ourselves when we are in a relationship.  A healthy relationship is when their is the “bae or boo” time, the family and friends time. Their must be a balance, don’t be to clingy to the point of allowing one man or lady to tell you that he or she needs space. That can hurt a lot!!!

#Discover the love language
The book by Gary Chapman titled The Five Love Languages argues that there are five primary love languages, there is room for more , but these five are the basis for others: Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch,Quality Time, Acts of Service and Gifts Giving. Find your partners love language and work with it towards a happy and blissful relationship

The “L” word
The “L” in relationships stands for LOVE and we all know that, you can’t be in a relationship without loving the person you are in with. I hear a chorus “NO”. I know right? We all have different reasons for going into any relationship and these reasons are best known to you. I’m not writing this piece for the unserious people, I’m writing for those who are looking for genuine love, those who have found and are willing to make the relationship work. Life is too short for you to be in an unhealthy, silly and loveless union. Even the Bible says that the greatest gift of all the fruits of the spirit is LOVE!!!. 

let the love flow peeps!!! *winks*