9 POINTERS OF A WRONG RELATIONSHIP

Running into a few bumps in the road is inevitable for all relationships,but how we handle them is what makes us stand from the other couples. If you recognize ahead of time what those relationship problems might be, you’ll have a much better chance of getting past them.
Relationships are meant to be peaceful, healthy, educative, building and above all, filled with love and understanding, this is not to say that relationships do not have their ups and downs, but successful couples have learned how to manage the bumps and keep their love life going. They hang in there, tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday life.
A relationship that takes too much of your time, makes you work extra hard to keep it, and you are always second guessing your stand and even your self-worth is no relationship, a relationship that makes you sad half of the time is a sham.

Do me a favour and ask yourself these few questions -Do you sometimes feel that your partner is too critical, controlling and lacks good sense of humor? Or are you getting into a relationship you are not sure of?
If these thoughts are running through your mind about your relationship, you need to start looking at various aspects of your partner or your own behaviour to determine whether this relationship is healthy for you or not.
Before things degenerate in the relationship, here are some signals you need to look out for.

• Temper outburst

If at every drop of a hat, your partner gets angry, throws a tantrum…something is seriously wrong. This outburst need not to be directed at you at all.  It could also mean that he or she is not happy which will definitely affect you . This is a signal you should watch out for before you are turned into an angry kid.

• Possessive and controlling nature

Over possessiveness is a brother to extreme jealousy and obsession. Is he or she having issues with you meeting up with your friends whether male or female, always calling to find out about your whereabouts and monitoring your every move. At least, you met most of these people before him, and he wants you to change your social life because of him or her, it is time to take the hike.

• Jealousy and lack of trust

Most times, love is not always enough, there must be understanding, good communication and trust. If your partner keeps calling you anytime you are not with him or her or if they want to always check your phone for secrets, it is glaring that he or she doesn’t trust you a bit.

• Critical about your friends and family

You need to ask yourself where the relationship is going, if at the point of meeting your family or friends, he comes up with one excuse or the other, they run away or form busy at work for you. It is obvious that your partner dislikes them and he or she is just about now alone.

• Insults and bickering

If your partner has a way of always insulting you stylishly in front of others, makes stupid jokes about your look, weight or the work you do, always bringing up old and settled issues whenever there is an argument which he or she even caused. I can and will boldly tell you that this is the time to pack your bag and “baggages” and find your way out.

• Not taking responsibility

Does your partner blame you for anything and everything that goes wrong in their lives? If yes, please get out of this relationship before your self-esteem is destroyed. If you constantly have to defend yourself, or take the blame for the flaws and shortcomings, then it is high time you realized that you are in the wrong boat.

• Lying

Lying to your partner is one major destroyer of relationships, it is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. You should be able to tell him or her anything because no matter how long it takes for you to cover that secret with lies, it will surely come out one day. If he or she truly loves you, things will work out.

• Sexist attitude

This mostly applies to women, if your partner does not respect you and he is of the opinion that your place is in the kitchen or bedroom, that you are to be seen and not heard, please think hard and deep about this kind of relationship.

• Wondering if you’re in the right relationship

If you find yourself wondering more than often (which means you can wonder occasionally), about being in a wrong relationship, then chances are that you are probably in one.